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Respostas com Sabedoria e Compaixão

por 11/10/2010 11 comentários

Alguém já disse que não controlamos o mundo, mas que podemos controlar nossa resposta. Quanto à primeira parte desta frase, imagino que não leve muito tempo e esforço para entender que nosso controle do mundo é realmente limitado, embora em nosso dia a dia possamos operar crendo que este controle é amplo e possível, sempre. Se pudéssemos olhar esta questão com cuidado, talvez nos déssemos conta da exata e precisa maneira em que este controle, de modo geral muito limitado, é possível, e abriríamos mão de tentar controlar além deste ponto, evitando sofrimento a nós e ao outro. Poderiamos quem sabe levar a vida de maneira mais leve, sem dar tanta solidez às situações do dia a dia, entendendo-as como de fato são, efêmeras como fumaça e sonhos, insubstanciais. Quem sabe pudéssemos aprender a rir um pouco de nós mesmos, do ridículo a que não raro nos expomos, da perda de dignidade que não raro nos impomos.

Na segunda parte da frase, a situação não é muito diferente. Embora à primeira vista nossa resposta seja um ato soberano e livre, temos respostas mais ou menos programadas, verdadeiros padrões cristalizados, difíceis de mudar, verdadeiras prisões sem grades; além disso, nós as usamos de modo geral inconscientemente, impensadamente, sem dar tempo para refletir como o gesto ou a palavra podem causar danos a nós e ao outro. Pode ser que, aqui também, um olhar cuidadoso começasse a nos dar um pouco mais de precisão acerca do que é possível fazer para evitar sofrimento desnecessário, retardando respostas, descobrindo que sempre há alternativas, para fazermos melhores escolhas.

Esse olhar cuidadoso deveria ser parte de um verdadeiro currículo, em casa, na escola, na igreja. William James diz que isto seria a educação por excelência. Poderíamos chamá-lo de “a arte da atenção plena”, ou de como transformar sua vida em uma obra de arte, mais leve, serena e amorosa.

É um olhar atento, introspectivo, que pode ser aprendido e treinado para, quem sabe pela primeira vez, olharmos para dentro, e entender que o mundo em que vamos viver, a cada segundo, está também determinado por nossa visão de mundo, não raro equivocada, e por nossas respostas.

Basta alguma fé, um pouco de esforço, um mínimo de disciplina, um amigo cuidadoso para nos ajudar nos primeiros passos, e pode ocorrer que, mesmo nas técnicas mais introdutórias de meditação, alguns resultados possam ser colhidos, e dar início a um ciclo virtuoso, que mesmo com altos e baixos, acaba por se instalar definitivamente. Com a mente sob algum controle, podemos nos familiarizar cada vez mais com nossos automatismos danosos e com nossas visões distorcidas. Aprendemos que temos uma tremenda liberdade para escolher o que vamos fazer, o que vamos sentir e o que vamos pensar. Se juntarmos a isso um pouco de cuidado com o outro, uma certa clareza de que nossos sofrimentos são universais, nossa natureza mais essencial será acessada, o humano mais sublime será desobstruído. E certamente brotará. Como diz o Lama Samten, a lucidez se manifestará como um destemor, uma não aflição.

Carlos Ernesto de Oliveira

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  • Kuan Yin - Evolução Humana disse:

    O homem tem a compulsão por remoer o passado, as pessoas custam a esquecer um pequeno ato falho, ou seja, o indivíduo está sempre “olhando para trás”. Alimentar as lembranças com tristezas não faz o tempo voltar, estaremos apenas sofrendo novamente. Gozamos desse mal hábito, deste vício, que consiste em comprar os nossos próprios problemas – Acabamos pagando caro por eles! Mas por que será que muitas pessoas ficam se lembrando e falando de infelicidade, aborrecimentos, ódio, ciúme, humilhações etc., com que se depararam? Essa resposta pode ser definida por este “olhar cuidadoso” que o autor brilhantemente nos remete, e nos enfatisa de forma simplória em sua magestosa passsagem “temos uma tremenda liberdade para escolher o que vamos fazer, o que vamos sentir e o que vamos pensar.” Parabéns. por Marcos Quadros

  • Carlos Ernesto de Oliveira
    Carlos Ernesto (autor) disse:

    Obrigado, Marcos!

  • Kátia Mafra disse:

    Estava lendo o texto, adorando e concordando com tudo. Parei no meio pois tive que fazer um atendimento e neste meio tempo….larguei ao vento palavras ríspidas ou não tão ríspidas, mas cheias de impaciência, raiva com a limitação do outro. Voltei pra cá, tensa, respirando rápido, com todo o padrão da raiva e terminei de ler.
    Mais uma vez não deu tempo, ou melhor, não estive presente no momento para pausar e dosar minha reação. Exercício diário este de observar e com alguma destreza interferir nos padrões de respostas tão, tão marcados pela repetição. Com a prática meditativa, estes padrões não cabem mais na minha vida, mas ainda assim os uso repetidamente e tenho dificuldade de lidar com a culpa de usá-los. Sei que a consciência pode me ajudar a trocá-los, aposentá-los. Não a culpa. Esta só gera mais ansiedade e menos presença. Mas eis que a culpa também é um dos meus padrões de resposta….
    Prática constante.
    Obrigada pelo texto que me fez vivenciar que é sempre mais bonito no papel, e mais fácil também. Da teoria à prática, é árduo!
    Obrigada,

  • Carlos Ernesto de Oliveira
    Carlos Ernesto (autor) disse:

    Oi, Kátia

    Suas observações me lembraram Robert Kegan, autor celebrado da psicologia da educação; ele diz que não somos nós que resolvemos os problemas difíceis, mas que são os problemas difíceis que nos resolvem. S.S. também diz que deveríamos nos prostrar a essas circunstâncias, pois são oportunidades de prática. Acho que esta é a mensagem dos mestres, que nos falam da perfeição de todas as coisas. Ou como diz o Lama Samten, refaça seu voto e coloque-se em posição virtuosa para a próxima oportunidade de prática. Minha amiga Ana Silva fala em lucidez quase instantânea, o que me parece perfeito. A cada vez que pisamos na jaca, a consciência vai atuando e nos preparando para melhorar as respostas dali para a frente, e causar menos sofrimento.

    Obrigado,

    Carlos

    Obrigado e um abraço,

    Carlos

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